In the Beginnig...

Are we born gay?

Do we become gay?

Do we choose to be gay?

Whoever will have the anwer to those questions will definitely win a nobel prize. Those questions are at the center of the controversies that gay people face on a day to day basis.

We belong to many fragments of society. For instance I am a Christian, I am an African, I am gay. All these three fragments do have their own opinions of the above, and these opinions are in total conflict with each other. The thing is there is a deep need for me to belong in all these fragments, but it is very difficult with such oposing view points.

This invariably leads to a deep personal conflict for the gay man because in order to belong to any of these fragments of society, they have to choose one or the other. We have to daily walk around with facades of what these groups think we should be in order to be accepted. Full disclosure of whom we are leads to expulsion. And there seems to be no reprieve to the bigotry that will be displayed by all those who think we have grossly gone beyond the borders of the norm.

The funny thing is that whatever else we are in our live seems to pale compared to or sexual disposition. Its not important the we found the cure for cancer, we are gay! That only will make all ties be cut off! Why should our full worth be only be defined by our sexulity?

These conflicts will remain for the gay man until society as a whole, in all differet aspect of it, learn to embrace differences in individuals. We are a mosaic of unique individuals who have a part to play for the good all. Everyone should have the liberty to be who they want to be, so long as that liberty does not harm anyone else.