Last week one if the pioneer queens of Nairobi dropped dead! Literally! Apparently his heart just stopped. He had added quite a few kilos of late! I was shocked when I heard the news, traumatised even.
See he was one of those people that I really had no contact with, regardless of the number of times we met in bars. We'd exchange glances and that’s it. And really had no ill thoughts of him, though I did enjoy the occasional pun.
I was surprised when I actually felt a sense of loss at his demise. Why would I feel loss at someone I particularly did not care for? I guess its the fact that we shared a struggle for acceptance. A bond of sistahood. He was comfortable with himself in a way that did inspire people not to care much about what people said. And that was partly why I did not particularly get cosy with him. I guess i've learnt not to judge people, gays, by who/what they are confortable in bieng.
He has left a mark in everyone's heart who knew of him. I hope he now finds happiness. God keep him in peace.
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2 comments:
Sorry about the loss.
Y'know, its true. I feel closer to a person just because he or she is gay. Irrespective of the persons character. Kuchu, we call it. And it is like a mark of acceptance.
Different social classes, tribes, earning power etc. When one is identified as gay, it is like saying, this one is a member of the family. And like any family, we may have less than reputable members, but they are still family.
So, when they go, a sense of loss.
My, our condolences to our neighbours in Kenya.
I have just come across your blog and wish to welcome you to blogosphere.
Fabien was a great guy- Yes I can use his name coz he never hid the fact that he was gay. He was not in the closest like you and I and for that we must applaud him. It is sad that he died so young.
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